What Can Parents Do about Prejudice?
Accept each of your children as unique and special. Let
your children know that you recognize and appreciate their individual qualities. Children
who feel good about themselves are less likely to be prejudiced. Also, notice unique and
special qualities in other people and discuss them with your children.
Help your children become sensitive to other people's feelings.
Studies indicate that caring, empathic children are less likely to be prejudiced. Share
stories and books with your children that help them to understand the points of view of
other people. When personal conflicts occur, encourage your children to think about how
the other person might be feeling.
Make sure your children understand that prejudice and
discrimination are unfair. Make it a firm rule that no person should be excluded
or teased on the basis of race, religion, ethnicity, accent, gender, disability, sexual
orientation, or appearance. Point out and discuss discrimination when you see it.
Teach your children respect and an appreciation for differences
by providing opportunities for interaction with people of diverse groups. Studies
show that children playing and working together toward common goals develop positive
attitudes about one another. Sports teams, bands, school clubs and community programs are
examples of activities that can help to counter the effects of homogeneous neighborhoods.
In addition to firsthand experiences, provide opportunities for children to learn about
people through books, television programs, concerts or other programs that show positive
insights into other cultures.
Help children recognize instances of stereotyping, prejudice and
discrimination. Make sure they know how to respond to such attitudes and
behaviors when they see them in action. Television news and entertainment shows, movies
and newspapers often provide opportunities for discussion. According to recent studies,
encouraging children's critical thinking ability may be the best antidote to prejudice.
Encourage your children to create positive change. Talk
to your children about how they can respond to prejudiced thinking or acts of
discrimination they observe. Painting over racist graffiti, writing letters to a
television producer who promotes stereotyped programming, or confronting a peer's
discriminatory behavior are all appropriate actions. Confronting classmates is
particularly hard for children, so they need to have a ready made response to such
instances. If another child is called a hurtful name, an observer might simply say,
"Don't call him/her that. Call him/her by his/her name." Or, if your child is
the victim, "Don't call me that. That's not fair." or "You don't like to be
called bad names and neither do I." In all cases, try to help your child to feel
comfortable in pointing out unfairness.
Take appropriate action against prejudice and discrimination.
For example, if other adults use bigoted language around you or your children, you should
not ignore it. Your children need to know that such behavior is unacceptable even if it is
from a familiar adult. A simple phrase will do: "Please don't talk that way around me
or my children." or "That kind of joke offends me." Adults need to hold
themselves to the same standards they want their children to follow.